I was reading Righteous Orbs today when I stumbled across this quote:
A clique is one of those irregular verbs: “we have a good relationship” “you are a clique” and often people deal with something that, for whatever reason, they don’t like by labelling it a clique.
Cliques. It’s an interesting topic in my guild, where you have a few perceived groups: the bloggers, the RL friends, the Elysium crew, the “old school” gang…I might be missing one or two for all I know.
There are roughly 100 accounts in my guild-not that many people, of course, but still a good many. It’s not terribly unusual for someone to ask me who So and So is and for me to not have an answer-I’m not the only one with invite powers. Person A invites their friend, their fiance, and their cousin in and by then I’m just as confused as anyone else. If it wasn’t for guild notes I don’t know what I’d do.
A clique is an exclusive group of people who share interests, views, purposes, patterns of behavior, or ethnicity. Membership in a clique is often, but not necessarily, exclusive, and qualifications for membership may be social or essential to the nature of the clique. The term ‘clique’ may be used pejoratively.
Pejoratives are words or grammatical forms which denote a negative affect; that is, they express the contempt or distaste of the speaker.
Thank you, Wikipedia. The point is that within any large group of people, smaller groups are going to form. The bloggers all talk amongst each other, yes-often quite a bit, outside of game. We share an interest beyond that of World of Warcraft itself, and the WoW blogosphere is actually a rather close-knit one. People who don’t understand this, or who don’t “get” blogging, probably look at us sideways.
Let’s face it, though-between chats, twitter, comments, blog posts…it’s entirely possible that I talk to some of these people more in a given day then I may talk to my boyfriend. You know, the man I live with? Yeah. Not that Josh and I don’t talk, but man, I spew out a lot of bored chatter at work! Does this mean I’ll never socialize outside of them? LOL, no. Have you ever tried to make a raid of all healers plus a rogue and a hunter? Yeah I didn’t think so.
I think a lot of the muttering about cliques is based on fear. You see a group of people that’s all nice and cozy together, and you either feel left out, or feel that you might be left out. Sometimes this is genuinely the case-with a previous guild merger, the group never did integrate with us. They didn’t talk much on our vent or go on our raids. Eventually they left en masse. The occasional true, negative clique tends to reflect badly on the other natural groups that form.
Ask yourself this: is one group really closed to new comers, or are people just afraid to try? Did you really get left out of the raid because you’re not one of the in crowd, or did they already have five other hunters? Do they all sit in their own vent channel…because you never try to join them? You could very well all be sitting there accusing the others of being cliquish when really you’re all just too chicken shit to socialize with new people.
I am not worried about “cliques” in BoO. Rather, I am pleased to see an active guild housing a wide variety of people, and all of their wide variety of interests.
Now excuse me while I leave the vent channel full of MinMax Debaters to go hang with the Bloggers, for the sake of not developing a headache.