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You know the type. “No one RPs with meeeeee. No one loves me, they just ignore me, QQ!”
I don’t know about you, but on my RP server, I’m in 3 different OOC chat channels. 3. Two of them can get pretty chatty, and stack /g on that and chances are good to middling that I miss stuff. I assume that everyone else is in roughly the same situation, so if I log on and poke for RP and nothing happens, it’s pointless to get upset.
Even if that’s not the case–whining is not going to make people want to RP with you. Logging off in a huff isn’t going to make people RP with you.
One of the major problems with RP servers is that new people can’t find RP. Why is that? Because everyone is sticking to their cliques in their little channels, perhaps?
If you can’t find RP, go make it. Do something radical and go sit in the Park (or whatever the horde equililant is). Yes, I KNOW the Park is Goldshire minus the naked people. That’s because the “saner” RPers avoid it, and perpetuate the cycle.
Sit in front of the AH and RP people watching. Sit in Darnassus and fish. Do something! Not only will you increase your chance of getting RP, but you might make a new friend. Or a new enemy! You could also make a good impression on someone new to the srever, or lift the despair of someone old on the srever who was swearing that RP was dead! Even better yet, you’ll be around when someone else in one of your channels pipes up and asks, “Hey, anyone for RP?”
You can say “Sure, come join us in Ironforge!” This gets a much better response than “No one wanted to RP with me EARLIER! /emocutut.” Fancy that.
Not only did the Brotherhood of Oblivion finally conquer our cockblock (DIAF Anub), but we got a new recruit out of it. There’s another two that I’m reeling in, as well. Yay! DPS!
I am forever amused (and frustrated by) the fact that we have this plethora of tanks and healers and a dearth of solid DPS. WTF, guys? Thankfully, most of our tanks and healers can rotate into DPS slots, but not all of them. The majority of them are competent at their secondary jobs if not downright excellent, which certainly makes my life earlier.
To my further amusement, our healers are less likely to complain about DPSing than our tanks. While most healers I know suffer from “back seat healing syndrome” (see how often I drop out of shadow form sometime), none of them seem to flail at others doing their job like a tank will. Is it because the tanks are more visible?
And now, let’s talk about…
How To Offer Opinions And Not Look Like A Dick
We have two raid members who are both rather opinionated individuals with a lot of usually solid advice to offer. One of them is an appreciated, well-liked member of the team…
…and the other is on the verge of being gkicked nearly every raid he attends. Why are they different?
- Watch your word choice.
- Watch your method of delivery.
“In hindsight, using X at This Time would have been better,” is less hostile than “Gee, using X at This Other Time was a mistake! Didn’t you see that _____?” If you are really frustrated and want to vent, find a friendly ear and do it there. Hint: ventrilo isn’t it. Tell your Healing Buddy that doing Y was dumb as hell, then suggest far more politely to your raid leader that maybe we could try ___ some time, because you’ve seen it work really well before.
Similarly, commenting in raid chat or in whispers is considered more polite than random vent comments during a boss fight. So, what what you say and how you say it: it makes the world of difference.
On a related note, if you are not the RL/an officer, don’t call for things like brezzes or heroism. Sometimes, we forget…but sometimes we have something else in mind, so we’d really rather you not confuse the matter. A pug, for example, might not recognize that you’re not the RL/officer and go ahead and do it and then…well. Oops.